Do you already know that your spouse is cheating on you? Just need to be a hundred percent sure before you take action on your relationship? In this article we will list down ways on how you can catch your spouse cheating. Before you read this, you may want to also read signs of a cheating spouse. Below is a general overview on what tools and methods we have at our disposal, follow the relevant links for a more detailed article on each method described. This section will be updated whenever something new has been found that can help us catch a cheating spouse, your suggestions are more than welcome (use the form linked above or leave it in the comments).
Please do your own research on state laws regarding the use of spy tools to monitor someone else’s conversations. I will not be responsible for providing legal advice for you, when in doubt contact a private investigator or divorce attorney.
A quick tip to keep the data that you have gathered secure, we never want cheaters to know we are on to them, is to start a free blogger.com blog and set it to invitation only. That way no one but you can access the things you have written. What I would do is list down every cheating sign I observed from my cheating spouse and the results of using the following methods and gadgets.
Ways to catch a cheating spouse
1.Cell Phone Trackers
Have you ever heard of these? These are programs which you install on your cellphones and have it collect data for you. That data is then sent to a server via the internet which you can access through your home computer or laptop. After manual installation on your phone, you can then leave these cell phone spies alone and just remotely access the data. Most of these work for all the latest mobile phones and the quality ones are always made to be undetectable. Their price ranges from $10 dollars a month, to $60 dollars per quarter. Very affordable, very effective. A top pick for catching a spouse who always has a mobilephone handy. We will not be talking about remotely activated mobilephones, those are costly and should not be recommended to anyone who is not a professional spy. It is also illegal to monitor other people’s mobile phones, you should only monitor a phone that you own. What we will talk about are cellphone spies that have text monitoring services as well as GPS trackers. Read the full Cell Phone Tracker article.
Keyloggers are devices or software that monitor keystrokes on your computer, which is called keystroke logging. Keyloggers can be useful to you if your suspected cheater is on the computer or laptop a lot (nowadays, who isn’t). The only downside to this method of catching a spouse is that laptops have no other option other than using software keyloggers which you need to install because it wouldn’t make sense to add a hardware keylogger onto a laptop. A hardware keylogger is more suitable for desktop computers. It is a small device that needs no installation, other than physically inserting it into your keyboard slot located at the back of the CPU. Downside of the hardware keylogger vs the software keylogger is storage space. With hardware keyloggers you are allotted a certain amount of space depending on the type of keylogger used. Software keyloggers make use of the computer or laptops own storage space, so the difference is immense considering hardware keyloggers only reach up to 12 gigabytes and start costing upwards of $50. Please remember that you should never monitor a laptop or computer that is not yours. Read the full Catch a cheating spouse with Keyloggers article.
Or Global Positioning Systems, is a way of tracking a device remotely from your pc or laptop. These devices are commonly attached to cars, but recent cellphone spies are so advanced that they have added this functionality to their software. The commonly found GPS devices will let you monitor the device using Google Maps, which makes it a very very powerful tool. Google Maps even allow you to view webcams located in those areas, and get the complete directions to get to that area, from a chosen area of origin (your home for example). The most solid way of busting the lies told to you by your spouse. No more 5 hour long shopping trips, GPS devices will tell you exactly where their went and for how long. Again, this should never be used to track a car that you do not own. It is illegal to GPS track anything but your own property. Read the full GPS Vehicle Tracking Devices article.
4. Reverse Phone Lookups
Also called Reverse telephone directory, is a service that lets you track a phone number, be it cellphone or home phone. You can now reverse phone lookup those unknown numbers that keep calling you! The downside is, some people can pay to get removed off of the reverse phone lookup database. Ever wonder how that telemarketer got your phone number? They used the reverse telephone directory. So if you want your details kept off, you’ll have to pay a fee. Another downside is that you will have to pay a fee to access full reports, I have not found a website that offers reverse phone lookups for free. The common details provided are Phone owner’s full name, address, what type of phone (cellphone or landline), and other associated phone numbers. Read the full Reverse Phone Lookups article.
5. Image Tracking
This is simply a search engine, for pictures. Something that is fairly new technology. It’s not the same as google that you type words, instead you show the search engine images. It also may be referred to as Content-Based Image Retrieval (CBIR). This is useful if you want to run your spouse’s pictures on a CBIR database to see where those pictures are listed on the internet. There is no fee for this service. There are however, limitation. For example, you find your spouse’s picture and they are with an unknown person who they won’t tell you about so you decide to do a search. You will not find that picture online if that picture is saved somewhere on Facebook or Multiply or any other type of social site that is set to private. Only public websites work, and as of now there are no CBIR companies that are big enough (say like google), who scan the entire internet. Read the full Reverse Image Tracking article
6. Video Surveillance Equipment
Hidden cameras are another effective solution to cheaters who have “visitors” at home while you are away. There are different types of surveillance equipment, and the hidden cameras are a little bit on the expensive side ($100+). What you’ll want to use is something that is small, and motion activated so you do not have to risk running out of storage for capturing video (and audio if you choose). This method has been made famous by a hit TV series called “Cheaters”, with Joey Greco.
7. Private investigators
Private eyes are the last thing you should consider if you do not have the cash. They are the most expensive way to catch a cheating spouse, but they are also the most reliable way. All you do is pay, and they will have every tool described here and more to track and document your cheating spouse’s activities. It is not uncommon to receive a bill of $3k or more for hiring a P.I. to track someone out of town for several days. A private investigator may also provide assistance to your attorney in civil cases such as helping you get child custody, premarital screening, and proving whether or not your spouse is cheating on your or not.
8. Setting traps
Something often overlooked, setting simple “traps” can help tell us if there are things going on in our home when we are away. A trap can be as simple as putting a thin see through tape at the back end of your toilet seat. If you are expecting no one to be home, and you apply this toilet seat trap, the most likely situation you would walk into when you get home is the tape would still be there. But if that tape is broken, you’ll know someone has been in your bathroom. Simple, free, effective. Read the full Free Ways To Catch Your Cheating Spouse article.
Other Ways To Catch A Cheating Spouse That Is –NOT– Recommended
1. Lie Detector Tests
These are not just expensive, they’re subjective as well. The will of the examiner and how nervous the person taking the test is what will determine whether or not they will look guilty or innocent according to the lie detector. People react differently when lying, and lie detector test examiners have different approaches in “controlling” your response. Lie detectors are not even supported by the scientific community. Trickery, not science, is what is used to get the “truth” out of you. If you would like to find out more about why a lie detectors should never be used, read this book “The Lie Behind The Lie Detector“ by George W. Maschke and Gino J. Scalabrini from antipolygraph.org
Calling up credit card companies, banks, phone companies, internet service providers and pretending to be someone you’re not is impersonation, or if you do it online it’s called Phishing. Say for example you found out the identity of the person your spouse is cheating on you with, then you use his or her name and pretend to be them in order to phish information, you can and most probably will get sued if they find out about it. Stick to watching for signs of cheating and focusing on your own spouse. Leave the other person alone, avoid all interaction unless you are going to confront them with legally acquired proof that they have been cheating with your spouse.